Skills such as handling conflict, communicating our needs, maintaining healthy boundaries and managing our emotions can be extremely helpful in improving our interactions with others. I provide education/training in interpersonal skills.
Getting input from an impartial third party is an effective way to improve the quality of a relationship. Oftentimes people are stuck in patterns of relating to others that developed early in their lives and are no longer helpful. I provide information that can assist clients in forming new patterns of relating to each other.
I have completed Level 2 Training in Gottman Method Couples Therapy and use Gottman Method Couples Therapy in my work. The Gottman Method of Couples Therapy is based on Dr. John Gottman’s research that began in the 1970’s and continues to this day. The research has focused on what makes relationships succeed or fail. From this research, Drs. John and Julie Gottman have created a method of therapy that emphasizes a “nuts-and-bolts” approach to improving clients’ relationships.
This method is designed to help teach specific tools to deepen friendship and intimacy in your relationship. To help you productively manage conflicts, you will be given methods to manage “resolvable problems” and dialogue about “gridlocked” (or perpetual) issues. We will also work together to help you appreciate your relationship’s strengths and gently navigate through its vulnerabilities.
Couple sessions are generally 80 minutes in length. By allowing more time than the standard 50-minute session for individuals, we are better able to address the complexity of working through interactional issues (in real time) and to learn and practice new skills.
Within the context of treating teenaged clients and young adults still living at home I will add family therapy to the individual’s treatment plan. Sometimes an entire family will come to therapy to address an issue that is disabling the family system. Sometimes a family subsystem such as a sibling group or a parent and their teen or adult child will come to therapy to work on issues that are causing stress or dysfunction. These are all situations that can be benefit from the help of a neutral third party who can pin point underlying issues and provide techniques to affect positive change within the system.
Sometimes people find that they keep choosing romantic partners that are not a good fit for them. They find themselves in the same negative cycles of behavior and start to wonder if they attract the wrong people or chose the wrong people. I can help clients figure out those negative patterns and modify their behavior in order to improve the quality of their relationships.